SYLOI Resource Center
Shine Your Light On It (SYLOI) Resource Center seeks to provide a centralized place where individuals and couples can access needed resources that will holistically equip them in their relationships from before marriage TO after 'I Do' TO family building and forever.
It’s commonly said that half of all first marriages end in divorce. However, the reality is more complex. The American Psychological Association (APA) estimates that the probability of a first marriage ending in divorce within the first 10 years is approximately 33% in 2023.
Yet, remarriage is a common occurrence in the United States, with approximately 40% of marriages involving at least one spouse who has been married before. Approximately 50% of divorced adults remarry within 5 years and men are more likely to remarry than women. Therefore, it's not that marriage does not work, most people desire to be married. However, it's because many people are entering into marriage with the wedding day being the big climax, not the forever. Most are unprepared with the mentality, expectations and tools required for the long term commitment, work, compromising, give and take, nourishing, sacrificing, loyalty, teamwork, vision, mission and purpose MANDATORY to achieve the reward of long term, undeniable success of marriage.
At Shine Your Light On It, our total focus will be on equipping those ready to embark or already in the marriage relationship with the right tools, while simultaneously showcasing the endless attractive, sexy, committed, rewarding and Godly institution of marriage. Let's Go. You got this! Let's get you equipped! Shine Your Light On It!
Peruse through the categories below to access various resources. Subscribe to our mailing list for updates and additions to the resource center and announcement of Podcast and YouTube Channel launch.
Know Your Identity
- 5 Ways Your Childhood Affects Your Romantic Relationships
- 11 Contrasting Traits Between an Orphan Spirit and a Spirit of SonShip
- Spirit of Rejection Where It Comes From
- How To Overcome Spirit of Rejection
- Childhood Trauma Affect Adult Relationships
Understand what love is
- Love Is Patient, Love Is Kind - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
- What Does "Love is Patient, Love is Kind" Really Mean? (A Close Look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-7) (healthychristianhome.com)
- To Love and to Envy | Psychology Today
- Love Does Not Delight In Evil But Rejoices With The Truth
- What does it mean that love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth (1 Corinthians 13:6)? - Employment Security Commission (ncesc.com)
- Setting Godly Boundaries in Marriage - Focus on the Family
- If We Love God Most, We Will Love Others Best | Desiring God
- What Happens If You Love Your Spouse More Than God
Commitment
Communication
- How to Create Emotional Safety in a Relationship: 7 Tips (psychcentral.com)
- IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE
- Relationships and Communication
- How to Have More Meaningful Conversations With Your Spouse
Familial Relationship
- Childhood Trauma Affect Adult Relationships
- 5 Ways Your Childhood Affects Your Romantic Relationships
- How Your Childhood Can Affect Your Marriage
- The Uncomfortable Truth About Who You Should Love Most (Between Your Spouse, Your Parents, And Your Kids) | Thought Catalog
Forgiveness
- 3 Key Principles of Forgiveness | Psychology Today
- How Forgiveness Can Transform Your Marriage
- How To Forgive Your Spouse When It's Not Easy
Grace
- So You Think You Married the Wrong Person... Now What?
- Grace in Marriage
- Seven Acts of Grace in a Marriage
Parenting
- Podcast #926: The 5 Shifts of Manhood | The Art of Manliness
- Tips on Balancing Parenting & Marriage
- Raising Godly Children
Pride in Marriage
- 10 WARNING SIGNS OF PRIDE IN MARRIAGE
- How Do I Kill My Pride?
- 15 Ways to Overcome Pride In a Relationship
- The Sin of Pride
- The Problem of Pride
- 11 Signs of Pride: How to Get Rid of Pride In Your Heart
Resilience
- Here is what real commitment to your marriage means
- 6 Traits Narcissists Want in a Romantic Partner | Psychology Today
- Can You Tell Whether a Narcissist Really Loves You? | Psychology Today
- Cutting and Running From Relationships Comes With a Cost | Psychology Today
- 5 Reasons You Keep Losing Friends and Close Relationships (walkingtheshoreline.com)
- 10 Lies Satan Will Use to Attack a Strong Marriage (ibelieve.com)
Issues in Marriage/Relationships
Addictions
Lying
- What Does It Mean To Be a Pathological Liar?
- What To Know About Pathological Liars
- What To Know About Pathological Liars
Finance
- 6 Financial Questions To Ask Your Partner Before Marriage
- 30 Money Questions To Ask Your Fiancé BEFORE Marriage
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